Managing Depression Naturally and Effectively

Fiona Tate - The Depression Muse
7 min readSep 26, 2022


You’ve found me because you want your Depression to go away. But you’re struggling with the numbness, the misery, and the brain fog that comes with the demon.

And if you’re a woman who’s high-functioning but dead inside and you’re ready to take back control of your emotions, thoughts and future without chaining yourself to the medical system and its insistence on recovery from Depression, then you’re in the right place.

I’m going to help you. I’m not going to tell you what to do. But I am going to show you how to do it for yourself.

I’ve lived with Depression since childhood and I’m 52 years old now. For most of my life I was broke, lonely, desperately unhappy and bored out of what was left of my mind. I was drinking too much, eating too much and not sleeping enough. I was sick.

Literally and figuratively.

I was stuck in my Depression, caught up in my symptoms and I firmly believed that I was completely powerless against the beast.

It wasn’t until I was in my late 40’s and my last chance of being a parent of any sort was completely exhausted that I decided things had to change. I made a conscious decision to find a way to live with my pain rather than giving into the Depression and drinking myself to death. Which was what every cell in my body was begging me to do.

I tried everything, I did the socializing, the group therapy, the individual therapy, the medication, the exercising, the dieting, blah blah blah.

It all worked. Until it didn’t. And then I’d find myself right back in that place of Depressed again. Feeling stupid, worthless, and incapable of being anything other than a mental health statistic.

But you know what really worked? What continues to work? What made the difference?

Accepting that I’ll probably have Depression for life. Creating my own plan for managing the days when I’m too sick to get out of bed. My own plan, not my doctor’s. Mine.

And writing my novel. Pouring out my grief, pain, anger, frustration into my Creature of Fucking Beauty. My novel. Using my Depression as a muse to create fulfillment in my life.

Right now, you’re probably thinking “Yeah that’s alright for you. Your Depression isn’t as bad as mine. You had help. You don’t have other problems to deal with. You had mental health training.”

But the reality is, that’s not your thinking. That’s the demon’s thinking. That’s your brain with its tendency to lean towards Depression trying to convince you to stay beaten down.

It’s fucking lying to you.

It’s making you believe that there’s no enjoyment to be had in this life. It’s making you believe that happy is for other people, not you and it’s making you believe that your life will never be any better than this.

So, you’ve got a choice. You can continue to let the demon control your life and you can continue to chase the ridiculous notion of recovery. But if that’s the route you choose, just be prepared for the fact that your life will never be any different than it is right now.

Actually, that’s not true, it can always get worse.

Or you can face your Depression, head on, and put it firmly in the background where it belongs. Sure, it can, and will, show its face occasionally, and that’s fine, you can handle it. But for most of the time, it’s just lurking in the background while you’re getting on with building your fulfilling life.

You’ve been told that you have Depression and “you must get rid of it.” You’re broken, there’s something so wrong with you that you need a complete overhaul of your life. You need to get out and join groups, you need to exercise more, you need to eat healthily. But most of all, you need to think positively.

You know why that hasn’t worked for you so far?

Because its so generic its irrelevant. It doesn’t address your own specific symptoms, interests, biology, life experience or even modern thinking about Depression.

The reality is that you are not wrong. You have a condition that gives you extra. Extra tolerance, extra love for others, extra understanding of pain, extra joy because you know the depths of despair intimately.

Instead of comparing yourselves to others, trying to follow some Doctor’s plan, trying to ignore your symptoms and beating yourself up because you’re depressed again, what you need to do is accept you have depression.

Learn how to manage it in a way that works best for you. Not anyone else, just you. You need to use creativity to express yourself and purge the demon. You need to reconnect with things you used to love and give yourself a fucking break. You need to remember who you are.

Plan for your shit days, learn what tools help you, and find your tribe. Those of us who get it, who’ve been there, done that, and bought the essential oil to match it.

It’s time to be who you were before the demon stole your dreams. It’s time to take control of your life. It’s time to show the world that Depression doesn’t make you less than, it makes you stronger. More tolerant, wise, and empathic.

That’s why I created Black Orchid Alchemy.

In this hybrid coaching/DIY program I teach you how to create your own shit day plan, your own self-care plan and how to tell your story in a way that’s meaningful to you. You’ll begin to understand your triggers in a deeper way and a specific way, and you’ll learn more about what’s important to you.

Then you’ll learn how to reconnect, how to fall back in love with things that used to matter to you. And how to reconnect with that part of you that isn’t caught up in the Depression. Yes, I promise you, that part is still there. During this phase, you’ll start to feel hope grow again.

To make the most of the new life you’re creating for yourself, you need to have some core knowledge of how to keep yourself well. That’s why we’ve included shadow work, dream work and a morning practice into the program. These are the things that are going to keep you safe while you maneuver your way through this journey.

Holistic Therapies are important to our process in Black Orchid Alchemy. We’re looking for complementary therapies that will help to keep the beast at bay. So, tarot therapy, aromatherapy, color therapy, shadow work and many more.

During the next part of the process, you’ll be introduced to some heroes of mine. Some are celebrities but most are not. These are people that are living full, happy, lives WITH Depression. They’re not focused on recovery because they’re too busy getting on with things.

The final part of our Orchid formula is Doing. It. Now. This is when you get the chance to display your CFB and look at others. You can sell your work on the site or just display it if you prefer.

I know that all sounds like a lot of work but that’s why Black Orchid Alchemy is a year long program. You have to go through the process. All of the steps are necessary to make sure you make lasting change not just a temporary fix. If you skip any part of the formula, you’re going to end up right back where you started and none of us want that.

It took me years to get to the place I am now. Where I look forward to each day. Where I get out of bed with purpose and a smile on my face. Okay, not a smile, Depressed or not, I’m not a morning person. But I am happy to be alive and that’s something I never thought I’d want to be.

I want to help you experience that. I want to save you all the years it took me and get you to that place quicker. I want you to live the best life you can, and I promise you, that’s a whole lot better than what you have now.

If you’ve finally had enough, and you know it’s time to make an empowering decision I want to invite you to email me at and tell me how Depression affects your life right now. And once your application is approved, I’ll reach out again so we can talk more about your specific situation.



Fiona Tate - The Depression Muse

Tarot Alchemist, Writer & Depression Slayer. My readings help you turn the demon Depression into a Creature of F&*king Beauty